"Five Wishes" by Gay Hendricks

• No need to dwell on the negative. Just notice it and move on.
• “Since we’re here and we don’t like small talk, let’s not have any. Would you like to have some big talk or no talk at all?”
• If you had told me on your deathbed that your life had not been a complete success, what would be the things you’d wish had happened that would have made it a success?
• The bigger the question, the more important it is to answer it right now. this moment is all the time you need. It’s the only one we have.
• Look at it [your life] from the perspective of your deathbed. Put it in the past tense, and do it first from the perspective that your life was not a success.
• Now, tell me why that’s important to you.
• Now turn the wish into a goal, and put it in the present tense, as if it’s happening at this moment.
• No need to dwell on the negative. Just notice it and move on.
• “Wait,” I said. “Any last minute advice for me?” He gave me a wink. “Get busy.”
• One way a pattern stays hidden from oneself is through lack of awareness.
• Money is really only a form of energy.
• Any significant incompletion acts like a boulder in a river. The river has to flow around it to get where it wants to go.
• The act of completing something, particularly if it has an emotional charge, is a remarkably powerful way to increase your abundance of love, money, health, and anything else that’s important to you.
• Any significant act of completion unleashes a hidden power, a rocket fuel for manifesting your heart’s desires.
• If you don’t like something, get out. Leave it behind and don’t look back.
• I was soon to discover something remarkable about the act of making completions: each one you take care of gives you a fresh burst of energy. If the completion is a major one, such as a big lie you finally admit to, the liberation of energy feels like rebirth.
• I use one main criterion for deciding if I should communicate it: is the other person likely to have an emotional reaction to it? If so, I definitely need to share it.
• Justification is one of the glues that hold incompletions in place.
• Is it true? Does it work? Have I personally used it to change my own life? Ever since, these questions have been my acid test for determining whether something is worth writing about.
• My life was not a complete success because...
• For my life to have been a success, I wish I’d...
• There’s a great value in welcoming your emotions and your limiting beliefs into the light: once they’re revealed to you, they lose their grip.
• It’s never too late to figure out what’s essential.
• Turn your wishes into goals.
• My life is a total success because I’m now...
• One thing you’ll probably find helpful is to create action steps that will translate your goals into practical reality.
• Throughout the process be aware of what I call back talk: the mind chatter and other reactions that happen when you introduce a more positive idea into your system.
• Welcome the back talk, because it’s completely natural and normal. It’s actually a sign that the new idea you’ve planted in your mind is taking root.
• Accept any and all back talk -- it’s a quick way to learn what your barriers have been to realizing the goal.
• We human beings have a great deal more capacity for achieving your goals than we usually give ourselves credit for. I believe we can attain all the important goals of our lifetimes -- if we get our hearts and minds into harmony about what those goals are.